Tuesday, October 30, 2012

The Economics of Relationships

This one has been long overdue. I thought of writing this article after I had my finance and economics classes at Purdue. While hanging out with a friend in the common area at school, we extended some of the concepts we learnt in these classes to a different area, human behavior and relationships. It’s amazing how closely some business concepts support human interactions. Sometimes we might have gone overboard while trying to fit in things, but nonetheless, it was fun!! 


Probably the most important concept in finance is the Net Present Value or NPV. It is the present value of future cash flows. Many important decisions and deals depend on this NPV. We observed that human interactions are greatly influenced by this concept. Every person has an NPV and this changes depending on the other person involved. But here the present value is not of actual cash flows (maybe sometimes it is) but of something intangible; probably some favors or expected good times with the person or something with an emotional value. The NPV of my best friend is far greater for me than for someone who is just an acquaintance of his. For me this NPV is based on all the reasons due to which the person is my best friend. The NPV of smart students is high for others because of all the possible help which they could expect, but for the smart students the NPV of the others is not as much or sometimes negative because of the possible hindrance to their study time… hahaha.

Sometimes we may not know a person but still his or her NPV for you exists and can be significant. Take for example, all applicants for a job you have applied for. Most certainly all have a negative NPV for each other since one getting a job means no future cash flows, literally. I have observed changes in people’s behavior towards each other from ‘my dear friend’ to ‘do I know you?’ within a span of few weeks. It’s all got to do with how valuable or important the person is going to be; which is basically NPV.

Now let us extend this concept to incorporate Options. When you are dating someone, the persons NPV is quite high for you since there is a potential of a long term (hopefully lifelong) partnership. However, like in any big project, we make sure that we have a chance to exercise an option of backing out of this partnership if you see the NPV going negative once more information about the project is available. Thus, engagement is the time when each party gets the right, with no obligations to exercise the option in either way; stay (marry) or back out.

Having said all this, we know how unpredictable human behavior is. In so many situations we end up doing things that a rational mind would not think of doing. This is where the above concepts fall apart. Maybe this is where the concepts of speculation, risk/return tradeoff can be brought into picture. But I won’t delve into those now. I am done with my MBA and leave it to current management students who have some free time to spend in the common rooms J

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Can I make a difference?


Over the last few weeks I have repeatedly come across this question.  Through discussions with friends, articles and videos on internet and the latest, a popular Indian TV show, Satyameva Jayate, this question keeps coming back. Can I make a difference? If yes, then how and when? Should I even care? Would that be too idealistic?

Even after 65 years of independence my motherland, India, and its people have not been able to get rid of numerous problems. In fact many new problems have cropped up. Every day is a challenge for many people, a puzzle to be solved… the solution to which would get them their next meal probably. I can safely say that I am one of the lucky minorities who live a relatively easy life. Then is it not my responsibility or duty or moral obligation (I don’t know the apt word here) to do whatever is in my capacity to help someone solve their puzzles?

I know people who have given up everything in their lives to help someone. Even when the riches of this world would have been within arms’ reach for them. I would not call them selfless because I guess that’s what gives them happiness. But I am pretty sure, how much ever I think of making a difference, I cannot give up many things I have in my life. Call me selfish or insensitive for saying this aloud, but that’s the truth for most of us. It is also true that I do not crave for too much money and would not mind giving up some of whatever I get to make a difference in someone’s life. Although, with a family in picture, this decision would not be solely my own. Giving my time and skills (with my MBA :P ) for some cause is another option. But again, with a career in balance, how much of your time can you give up?

So that’s the thing. Right now, it is just random thoughts troubling me. It is troubling because I know I will not be making too many sacrifices but still want to make a difference. It makes me look bad in my own eyes. So right now all that I’ll do is to carry on to get my life on track. When and how to make a difference is a question I’ll always keep open and I am hopeful that I’ll find an answer soon. I don’t know how many of us feel this way. But for those who do, here is a great line from a popular Hindi song…”kuch aisa karke dikha, khud khush ho jaye khuda”. 

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Why do I always smile?


This post is dedicated to my grandmother who passed away 2 days ago

Ever so often I get this compliment.. “I always see you smiling”. I never thought about it much. Now that I think about it, I realize that it is not something I do consciously. It is totally involuntary, just like my breathing. And I think it comes from my attitude towards life, ever optimistic, always positive. And where did I get this attitude from? I give that credit to my wonderful family. And I want to thank God for sending me into this wonderful family and giving me this great life. I don’t remember anyone from my family explicitly telling me to have an optimistic outlook. But each member through example, through the way they have lived their lives, has left a lasting impact. That’s what has shaped me.

I would particularly like to mention my grandparents. Never ever have I seen them grumpy or complaining or fretting about things. My wonderful grandma who passed away this Sunday, was a tough old woman, a survivor. She fought off cancer and a small heart attack a few years back. She was 84, but had so much zest for life. Although in the past few years she couldn’t travel much, she loved to meet people and loved to have people come over to our place. Without doubt she has been one of the strong links that has kept us close to our extended family of multitude of cousins. I know she had been in pain and discomfort many times during her illnesses. But I never heard her complain too much. When I had an accident, my grandma was in the same hospital where I was, recovering after her cancer surgery. I was supposed to meet her that evening, but instead she came to my room to meet me and cheer me up. She said that she had a great life with great people around her and thanked God for it.

With such positivity in the family, it is natural for me to turn out the way I have as a person. Just like my family, I have some really wonderful friends always around me. It is comforting to know that they will always be there through good times and bad. God has been kind to me and there is no reason to complain about anything. So the least I can do to pay him back is to make sure people around me stay happy. I cannot change things in their lives but in tough times, if I can give them a few moments of happiness, some fits of laughter or just a simple soothing smile, I am sure I will make a positive difference.

While I was walking today along the river, I thought of a life mantra for myself… “Share your joys and others’ sorrows”. Now I am not a superhuman, so God forbid, there could be times when I would burden my close ones with my sorrows. But if I can help it, a smile is all that you would see J

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

O God please tell me

O God please tell me

Why the terrible plight?

Aren’t we all Your children?

Why do You let us fight?


O God please tell me

Don’t You love us all?

There are many who die of hunger

Yet there are a few who have it all


O God please tell me

Why are there so many of You?

Each saying the same thing

With a different point of view?

It is sad that we are stupid

To think that You disagree with You

And go to even kill each other

To prove One right over the other You


O God please tell me

Why the deceit and so many lies

You let us trick and con and cheat

But isn’t it something that You despise?


Hey man, wait a minute

Are you kidding me?

What am I to blame for

Wasn’t it you who made me?


It is you who is weak

And can’t stand any bitter truth

You utterly fail as a human

And make Me a scapegoat?


I pity you O human

That you totally miss the point

You gave Me the rules to guide you

Yet it is I to disappoint?


So I pray to you O human

To just leave me alone

And I’m sure if you try hard enough

You’ll find God in your Soul

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

The past year that flew by...

What am I doing here? This sounds like a very philosophical question, doesn't it? Well.. it's not as deep a question as you think. I had this discussion with a good friend of mine some days ago about the reason for our coming to the USA. You would say the obvious answer would be 'to study'. But coming to think of it, it is not just that. You would also argue that it is to earn more money, to lead a better life.. but giving it some thought made us realize and concur that none of these are the real reasons.
There are some damn good educational institutions in India and I need not come to Purdue for that. Although one could argue that getting into those places is a different game altogether. But that's not the point. I did have the option to study in India. I could have kept working in India, switched a few jobs and earned more money. And if you have money you can definitely lead a good life in India. So why did I come to the US? I would say it is simply for the experience; to meet different people, to see different cultures, to observe people around me... their problems, their struggles, their triumphs, their joys, their actions, their behavior; to experience living away from my close ones and find more special people to be friends for life. In essence, to grow as a person.
It has been one year since I came to Purdue. Well.. one academic year. But what an year it was!! Academically it was of course an enriching experience. I have a wonderful mix of classmates, interacting with whom, is always a pleasure. I am glad my b-school has a great mix of nationalities. Where else would you get to meet a South Korean army captain and get his views first hand on their political situation? Or talk to an Egyptian classmate right when her countrymen are writing history? Or learn from Chinese classmates what they have been learning about Tibet and Nepal in their schools?
Outside school too it could not have been better. Well..actually it could have been, but anyways :)
I have been fortunate to get a bunch of really good 'real' friends here. I say 'real' because after coming here my 'virtual' friends list on Facebook has ridiculously shot up and the latest number I see is 850!! It is amazing to see the social dynamics among these real friends. Gradually and inevitably this 'universal set' of friends around you get bunched up into various 'sets and subsets'. There are the intersections which sometimes face a tough time managing two groups. And then sometimes there are attempts at unions which are rather difficult to manage. In a community formed thousands of miles away from home, usually you really don't have too much of a choice in choosing these sets. And the ensuing politics, bitching and gossiping is quite entertaining. I must admit I am pretty neutral and diplomatic when it comes to such situations. I also got a really special friend here, the kind of friend with whom you share almost everything. I already have such a set of friends and our friendship has stood the test of time. I just hope this new friendship also follows the same path.
When I came to Purdue my roommate told me about the typical stages in an Indian grad students life here. It is excitement to begin with, followed by a brief bout of depression around fall and winter time and then its all good again as you get used to the life here. Then you visit India in the 2nd winter and have a great trip and come back. Then you finish your course and start with your job. Your 2nd trip to India, although exciting, is riddled with constant thought about your job and life back in US. Your initial thoughts of one day going back to India gradually fade and you eventually settle in the US for good justifying your decision with various arguments.
I have been saying, maybe like hundreds of other Indians, that after a few years I would go back. But my roommate also said that those who do go back usually do so not by choice but due to circumstances. I agree that his argument is based on an observed trend and that I too will be staying here for some years at least. I just hope I can prove him wrong :) But till then, I'm here and waiting for another eventful year ahead!!

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Fight against Corruption: Are we 'honestly' ready as citizens?


The Lok Pal bill seems really interesting and powerful and it is heartening to see people supporting it vehemently. But my question to all of us is, how ready are all of us to be honest and play our part in ridding the country of corruption? Next time when the traffic cop catches us, will we pay Rs. 200 and get a receipt or pay Rs. 50 and mutually benefit? Will you fake rent receipts to evade tax? I don't think I need to give more examples, we personally know those. Corruption has become such an intrinsic part of the society that many a times we do not realize that we are doing something wrong. You inadvertently legitimize many such actions in your conscience by repetition.
We cry out loud when multi million rupee scams of politicians are unearthed. But what about the multi millions added up by the seemingly negligible corrupt actions of each one of us? These small acts are not the ones for which you will be dragged to court. Our law enforcement agencies are simply not capable enough to look at millions of such cases, giving us the immunity to blatantly carry on. The Lok Pal will be there to bring to book politicians and govt offcials and other high profile people guilty of white collar corruption. This might help reduce high profile scams. But what about common people like us? As citizens we ask for the Right To Information, ask for means to check corruption, but are we ready to dispense our duties as responsible citizens and not cheat our country and countrymen? I admit that I am myself guilty of such acts. And I am pretty sure every person reading this would fail the polygraph test. But I can sincerely say that I am ready to change.
Every person should be ready to pass the ‘Swa Pal’ bill in his own heart and check his own actions. Getting the country rid of corruption is going to be a major lifestyle change for each and every one of us. The struggle doesn't end with the Lok Pal Bill, it just begins there.

Sunday, December 5, 2010

My first poem

I woke up in the morning
And opened the blinds
There she was standing
Beautiful in pristine whites

I went out to have a walk with her
It seemed so fabulous
But she warned me in a while
"Be careful.... this can be treacherous"

I said I'll be careful
And so we went along
With days full of fun and frolic
Ignorant of the bed of thorns

She glowed in all her glory
When the sun shone on
But little did I realize
That he will take her along

Then she bade me goodbye
I thanked her for all the joy
With a heavy heart and thoughts in my head
I shut the blinds and went straight to bed

I woke up in the morning
And opened the blinds
And I longed to see her standing
Again in her pristine whites

But as I looked out half asleep
My heart took a leap
There again she was standing
Adorned with grace in her majestic green

- Anoop