B +ve... No, it is not my blood group :) It is one of the principles by which I lead my life. It is one of the little things which makes me the 'hasmukhlal' (ever smiling... got that name in college) that I am.
I believe that whatever happens, happens for the good. I know we can find numerous examples where this statement can be challenged. Take any natural calamity, acts of terror.. what good can possibly come out of it? So I guess this statement shouldn't be taken in the literal sense. The thing to take from it is the positive spirit behind the line.
How you look at an event is the key. Always try to find things which you can learn from such events, make a note for the future, thank God that nothing worse happened and move on. Well, it is difficult for people who have directly suffered, but that is where the positive attitude helps. Take for example, my motorbike accident. With a badly shattered left knee, it was a big setback for my routine life. I had to literally learn to walk again. It was painful, frustrating but I always had the end result in mind, my first steps without crutches. I really cannot put in words the joy I felt when I walked that day. My positive attitude helped me sail thru or rather.. 'walk thru'.
I learnt many things of course. The very basic being the wonderful physiology of the human body. It is indeed a marvel. I learnt to what extent I can push my body. I learnt to be more patient. There are some things which cannot be pushed through. You need to allow enough water to flow under the bridge. I had to wait and struggle for almost 2 years before I could run again.
Most importantly, I rediscovered the importance of friends in my life. Very few people do so much for friends what my friends have done for me. I know we do not count such deeds in friendship. But I must say that I owe a lot to them. I also got time to think about many other people and situations in different light which in the normal course of life I wouldn't have thought about. So the point here is that although a misfortune, I look at the accident as a blessing in disguise for giving me the opportunity to grow as a person.
I know many people who crib and complain about petty matters. However, they do not realize that by doing so it is only themselves that suffer and no one else. If there is something which bothers you, find a solution and take action. If there is nothing you can do, why bother? Your being bothered is not going to resolve matters. I know this is easy to say but difficult to act on these lines. The human mind is quite complicated and controlling your thoughts is probably one of the most difficult things. I am not saying that I have mastered the art of being positive. I am definitely lucky to naturally have this mindset to some extent. Consequently many things which normally irritate people do not trouble me. They just bring a smile to my face and I carry on. I guess I just laugh at luck when I can :)
I do get troubled by some things. But when something troubles me I make a conscious effort to not get bogged down. Try this.. think of the worst case scenario that can happen and you will realize that the situation is not so bad after all. Like in an exam you are totally screwed, what can be the worst outcome? You will fail and worse you may lose an year. Well... that's it. If you look at the bigger picture of life it wont matter. After a few years you'll look back and laugh. So instead of dreading the outcome, think where you went wrong and prepare better.
Looks like this is turning out to be Art of living discourse :) I should stop now. But I genuinely wanted to share what I feel. Believe me.. a small change in your outlook can make a world of difference. Give it a try.
